I spent quite a lot of time on a friendship/dating site when I split up with The Girl’s dad. I made a LOT of friends who I have remained close to, but surprisingly never really went on any ‘dates’ as such (but that’s more about the kind of person I am than whether the site was good or bad.)
In all, I probably met a few hundred people from the site – mainly in group situations, as there were some that there was NO WAY I would have met them on a one-to-one basis!
Anyway, I am still registered with them (and they are a VERY big site, with a huge membership) and I still get emails from them begging me to come back and see who’s viewed my profile or what matches I have, yada yada yada.
Anyway, I just got this one, and I was actually quite surprised.
If you went on a first date with someone and got on really well. Would you go home with them?
Overall Results:
- Women Who answered YES: 16%
- Women Who answered NO: 84%
- Man who Answered YES: 75%
- Man who Answerered NO: 25%
If you could get revenge on an ex without getting caught, would you?
Overall Results:
- Women Who answered YES: 29%
- Women Who answered NO: 71%
- Man who Answered YES: 19%
- Man who Answered NO: 81%
Now, being a girl who has only ever had one one-night-stand (and that was planned to be exactly that), I am really shocked by how few girls claim that they would go home with a guy after a successful first date – cos I
always did! Only 16%? That seems VERY low to me – especially compared with the boy’s 75% Are boys just more honest about that because there’s not the stigma attached to it of being ‘easy’ if you’re a boy? Also, there were a lot of girls that *I* knew on that site who often went home with boys after one date
a lot of boys!
As for revenge, i am surprised how many bitter women there are. I shouldn’t be though. i am often struck by how so many women blame ex-partners for everything wrong in their lives and become so vitriolic and spiteful about them. Men just don’t seem to do that. I think men play on the ‘nasty ex’ syndrome to make their new amours more sympathetic towards them, but once they’re bagged, their ex might as well have never existed, LOL. So, why do women seem to find it so hard to get over men?
I’d actually be really interested to hear what form the imagined ‘revenge’ took. personally, I have plotted revenge on a couple of exes, but it was more of a ‘getting over them thing’ and I LOVE plotting, but would never ever carry it out – mainly because of what I said above – bitterness is unattractive and hurts the person feeling it far more deeply than the person it’s against. In fact, I think that generally bitterness hurts you far more than the person you feel it towards ever hurt you. Obviously there are some exceptions to the rule (domestic violence for example!)
Plotting revenge is fun though – and it always gets my creative juices flowing. The plotting is where it should remain though – carrying it out is just a bit sad to be honest.
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I can’t see only 16% being right. Not these days! lol There’s still a lot of men that hold a woman’s sexual past against them though, so I can understand not being honest.
I think women are more personal about sex and put more into a relationship than a lot of men do and that is why more become bitter and want revenge when things don’t work out. I’m not saying men don’t invest in relationships, but I think they are more easy going about it. Women can be complicated creatures!
My idea of revenge is just moving on and being happy without that person in your life who has hurt you – it’s the only way you come out a winner.
I’m guilty of being bitter myself and even though I may have good reason, I do agree that it’s unattractive and hurts you more in the long run. Luckily it’s something I’ve seen developing within myself and I’m doing my best to get over it. Again, the best way to avoid bitterness, is to just work on making yourself happy. If you rely on others to make you happy, you’re often going to be disappointed and bitter when things go wrong. Find your own happiness within yourself and nothing will hold you back.
I bet if you made the women take that poll again after a couple of Malibu & pineapples they’re all be legs akimbo in a park in Romford within the first hour.
you are SO essex! Malibu & pineapple? who drinks that??
At first I was supposing that the men must be going home together, but it says “would” rather than “did”. If you do a quick sum that must mean that over half of all men go home disapointed after a good first date. And yet it’s the women that are the bitter ones. Go figure.
Women are obviously the deluded ones
I’m not terribly surprised about the going home with someone on a first date question. I think women are far less likely to admit that they “would”. I even think I’d probably answer no, because I probably *think* I “wouldn’t”, though frankly, I often have (but usually didn’t even have sex!)
see – it doesn’t ask if you would shag them, just if you would go home with them! As you said, I think women are less likely to ADMIT it.